Communication is the Key
Communication is the Key
Communication is the key to any relationship. Some methods of communication come easily and other methods of communication can cause tension and discourse within a marriage or relationship.
While taking the time to think through a situation and gauge how your reaction is likely to be versus how you want it to be may feel unnatural, it can make for a successful relationship.
If your partner is critical in anger, it is natural to become defensive and angry, but to be successful in your relationship, look outside 
what comes naturally and attempt to reign in those hurt feelings, asking your partner to elaborate on what you can do in order to meet your partner’s expectations. This can help create a dialogue that will bring your relationship to a healthier level. Attempt to recognize that defensive communication has been ineffective in the past. While resisting the urge to be defensive requires patience and understanding, it can mean the difference between successful discussions versus failed ones.
In the future, practice unnatural acts of thoughtfulness, kindness, interest in your partner’s needs or fears. This can prevent problems from escalating because your partner is now aware that you are trying to give more to the relationship, and that you heard their concerns.Listen carefully to your partner, expressing an honest interest in your partner’s fears, stresses, insecurities, happiness, goals, and values, and also express your own. Ask questions, indicating that you have a desire to make things better and help your relationship.
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